The Five Circles of Influence and Impact
The 2nd Circle
RELATIONSHIP
We believe the tribe conversation is critically important as it creates and distinguishes the language and structure of a modern-day thriving tribe for you. As you develop the 4P’s; perspective, philosophy, principles, and practices of a thriving tribe, you expand your tribal consciousness and begin to master important interactions that become the foundations for success and achievement in all areas of life.
The TribeUp Success triad
Live Your Best Life Now
Achieve Your Highest Aims Now
Make Your Greatest Contribution to Society Now
When a word means everything, it ultimately means nothing. We want to bring clear meaning to the word relationship in the context of your tribe and the five circles of influence and impact. If the 3rd circle-CONNECTION is a unilateral bond caused by one party adding value to the other, the 2nd circle-RELATIONSHIP is a bilateral bond where both parties are reciprocating value.
The RELATIONSHIP circle is where your core tribe begins. It is where much of your life is happening. These are your most important and most frequent interactions. I will state this again as it is critically important and often ignored, relationships require reciprocity, no delusions, or illusions. Self-honesty and self-honor are very important here. Philanthropy is one thing but a thriving tribe is not philanthropy.
Your 2nd Circle-RELATIONSHIP and your 1st circle-INNER CIRCLE are your core tribe and they have limited space available. Through our experience and supporting data by the studies and writings of Robin Dunbar, we feel your core tribe of relationships can be an approximate maximum of 150 people. This seems to be the number of meaningful relationships our brains can handle. There are many factors, and it depends on the individual, but some can have a few more and some have less. Despite this possible number, many have far less meaningful relationships in their core tribe.
When something is limited or finite, it tends to become more valuable, or at least it should. For example, if real estate is in demand and scarce, the value of a space increases. Your RELATIONSHIP circle is limited and valuable. Being close to you needs to be limited and valuable if you want to continue to reach your full potential. You have only so much time, money, and energy to steward and invest. When someone is extracting those resources from us, it is because we allow it.
Oftentimes we have family and loved ones in our RELATIONSHIP circle, and they are toxic, takers, and damaging and we feel some obligation to allow it to continue because they are “family”. I cannot tell you who to love or who to spend your most precious time, money, and energy on, that is for you to decide. However, if you want to have a thriving tribe, you must consider that even if you love someone or care for someone, sometimes the best thing is to distance them into a circle with a different intention and different investment.
I propose that you start to consider the word relationship and its meaning to be something more sacred. It should not just be a placeholder but a valuable place in your life, reserved for positive, productive, and healthy interactions. Choosing one thing means un-choosing another. If you choose to thrive with your tribe, you need to un-choose toxicity, drama, and negative association and energy. Relation-ship means we are in the ship together and we sail or sink that way. Tribe Well!
